Therapy for
Anxiety in Mesa, AZ
Break free from people-pleasing, burnout and overthinking.
You want to feel like your life is balanced and your needs are taken care of but…
→ You are starting to feel resentful and burnt out from taking care of everyone else before yourself.
→ You feel like asking for help makes you seem like you are “too much” or “too needy”.
→ You feel like you can’t speak up about what you actually think or want because you don’t want to ruffle any feathers.
→ People see you as the “agreeable” or “go to” person, and you are scared if you are not always filling that role, that they will think less of you.
→ You replay conversations and interactions in your head wondering if you said or did the “right” thing.
→ You are constantly apologizing for things that aren’t your fault.
→ You feel responsible for other people’s emotions, so you avoid conflict at all costs so no one gets upset with you.
→ A big part of your identity is always being busy and accomplishing a lot so you are worried about how others would see you if you slowed down.
→ You would rather eat something you didn’t order than bring it up to your server.
Anxiety Therapy in Mesa, AZ can help you…
𑁍 Clarify what actually matters to you so you can let guide your decisions rather than being trapped by fear and other people’s perceptions of you.
𑁍 Escape the spirals of overthinking and feeling like you always need outside reassurance.
𑁍 Learn the skills you need to speak up for yourself in a calm, compassionate and direct way.
𑁍 Get to the root of where the people-pleasing began and heal from those experiences.
𑁍 Feel more connected and authentic in your relationships instead of secretly resenting the other person.
𑁍 Gain confidence in your own worth outside of other’s opinions or approval.
𑁍 Find more time and energy for the things that actually matter to you, so you can say “yes” enthusiastically and not resentfully.
𑁍 Make decisions with confidence instead of asking everyone else for their opinion first.
𑁍 Take care of yourself and rest without the guilt and shame.
How Do You Know When You Need Therapy For People-Pleasing?
It can be hard to know when you need therapy for people-pleasing because people-pleasing behaviors are often reinforced by other people. It might not seem like a big problem because you are likely getting validation and praise for putting everyone else above yourself.
However, if you put everyone else’s feelings and opinions aside, how do you feel about how you are living your life? Is what you’re currently doing working for you?
Do you feel fulfilled?
Do you feel your needs are taken care of?
Do you feel like you can make a simple request or decision without overthinking it?
If you answered no to any of these questions, it may be a sign that therapy could support you in creating a life that feels genuinely good on the inside, not just one that looks good on the outside.
How I can help you with Anxiety and
People-Pleasing:
Here is what our work together will normally look like:
I get to know you better and we clarify your goals for therapy and what methods would best help. We identify the patterns that are not working for you and ways to change them.
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I support you in learning skills to set boundaries and speak up for yourself. I will help empower you and walk you through it when it feels scary or uncomfortable.
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If applicable, we process past experiences that may have contributed to the people-pleasing patterns, so that we can address the root of the issue. EMDR can be very useful for this!
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You continue to crush your goals and build up confidence. We start to meet less often until you don’t need me anymore!
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Anxiety Therapy in Mesa, AZ Can Help
You don’t have to feel like you are living your life for everyone but yourself anymore. Therapy can help you align with the things that actually matter to you so you can make decisions based on your values rather than just going along with past patterns and fear of what other people will think. We can work together to help you trust yourself again and rebuild your confidence, which will positively impact many areas of your life including your relationships, work life and home life. It is not selfish to invest in yourself, it is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself and the people you love. Book a free consultation call to get started!